Intimacy

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The vast majority of individuals who have ostomies enjoy the same sex life after surgery that they had before. Keep in mind that ostomy procedures are major surgeries, and you need to give yourself a chance to heal. Pain, nausea, medications and fatigue don’t help matters, and when you’re totally focused on learning how to deal with a new ostomy, that uncertainty can affect your confidence in other areas too. Men may not have an erection the first time they try after surgery. Women may have pain with penetration.

Don’t convince yourself that this is the way it’s always going to be. Rest. Relax. Regain your strength and try again. If the problem persists, talk to your doctor.

Once you are ready, here are some tips:

  • Make sure your pouch is empty and secure
  • Wear an opaque pouch or a pouch cover
  • Wear a smaller pouch
  • Women might want to try crotchless panties
  • Men can wear a cummerbund
  • Experiment with different positions; Having sex won’t hurt the stoma but you might be more comfortable side-lying.
  • Be aware that the stoma is not ever to be used as a sexual organ.